Does Your Date Want to Take It to the Next Level?

Practically everyone has been there – that point in a date where you’re still working up the nerve to kiss her, where you want to throw yourself all over him, where you want to go all the way… but are afraid. It’s a high-wire act: walking the tightrope of appropriate versus inappropriate ways to convey your interests, with any wrong move at the wrong time resulting in a fall from grace. Luckily, there are some tips to getting you through just how fresh you should get on your first few dates: - Gauge the flirting. Are you giving each other light touches? Holding each other’s gaze? Smiling at one another? Standing or sitting close to each other? Exchanging sincere compliments or sexy talk? Any of these are green-light indicators that your date is into you and craving more. - What kind of conversation are you having? Is it full of open-ended questions so that you’re learning more about one another? This shows interest and is one way to build future potential. Find out what your date’s interests are and plan your next rendezvous around them, making sure to do things that invite touch-me-more opportunity. - Test the waters with the age old "arm around your date" move, but pay attention to the reaction! Does she lean in? Does he put his arm around you too? Such responses can help you to ease your way into intimacy as you draw your date close, kissing his or her neck and ears first. If your date wants more, s/he will be sure to face you. Don’t force intimacy if you’re not getting positive reactions. - As the outing draws to a close, give your date a gentle peck. If more is meant to happen, your date will respond with more kisses. Since you’re the initiator, wanting more, simply ask your date if s/he is okay with going farther. Checking in shows you care, which can only win points. - If you’re feeling good about each other, invite the person back to your place, but let your desires be known. Tell your date what you’re comfortable with now and what you’re looking forward to in the future – and that you respect his/her comfort level as well. - If you were lucky enough to stay overnight, do not make an early exit. Aim for quality wake up time, full of cuddling and, perhaps, an encore performance. - Call your date within 24-48 hours of parting – express how much fun you had! - Remember, less usually makes it more eventually. Leaving something to be desired will make both of you long to come back for more passionate, can’t-get-enough-of-you action. Definite Don’ts: - Don’t misrepresent your intentions. If your agenda is strictly sexual, let that be known ahead of time. That way, both of you avoid disappointment if that’s not mutually desired. - Don’t underestimate the importance of manners – respect your date’s comfort level! - Don’t not make a move, as this will be misinterpreted that you’re not interested. - Don’t give mixed signals. Communicate your wants, e.g. "I want to kiss you, but I don’t want to be inappropriate." Your date will be flattered by your concern. - Don’t be discouraged if you don’t get as far as you’d hoped. Your date may be into you, but wanting to take it slow. - Don’t put too much emphasis on the physical, as it will fall into place naturally as you focus on other things.
Ultimately, each situation and relationship will require a slightly different approach - but as long as you remain honest about your feelings and respectful of your partner, youll be well on your way to delightful intimacy.